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    How To Stop Dreading Public Speaking and Learn to Love it

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    Have you ever had to give a public presentation?

    If so, you may remember damp palms, butterflies in your stomach, and an overwhelming wish to hide in a cupboard instead of striding onto the stage.

    If you turn into a successful writer, chances are you’ll have to get used to public speaking.

    The good news is that you can learn to speak publicly with confidence – and even enjoy it.

    There are two keys factors that change the way you experience public presentations, one factor is the use of mental strategies that enable you to feel confident and in charge. The other factor is the preparation that results in a presentation that rocks – this is what this post focuses on.

    In tandem with this post, I’ve published an article on Goodlife ZEN that covers the psychological and physical strategies that you can use in order to become a cool presenter: How to Speak in Public With Confidence – And Be On Top of Your Game. Read both articles to get the full juice.

    Nail the benefit

    Before you start preparing for your presentation, you need to ask an important question: what is the benefit to my audience? In order to get a good response from your audience, the presentation needs to have a clear benefit. It’s important to formulate the benefit right from the start. What new knowledge, new inspiration, or new skills do you want your audience to take away from your talk?

    Create a memorable structure

    As I explain in my article How to Speak in Public With Confidence – and Be On Top of Your Game one of the fears we face is that our mind goes blank during a presentation. There are some simple psychological tricks you can use to avoid memory blanks. In addition, you can structure your talk so that it is memorable for you as well as for your audience.

    An structure that storytellers have used since ancient times is the three-act form. In the design of your presentation, Act 1 is the opening. It is the description of the pain points, challenges, and frustration that your audience faces in respect of your topic. When you promise to show how to overcome these challenges in order to reach a desired outcome, you sets up a dramatic tension.

    The corresponding part of your presentation is Act 3. It offers the resolution, and describes how one is changed and rewarded through overcoming the challenges and attaining the desired outcome.

    Act 2 is the detailed description of the path from A to B. It is the ‘how to’ section of the presentation.

    No matter what your topic is, this structure ensures that you connect with your audience, because people feel understood when you name their pain, and inspired when you show them how to overcome it.  This three-act structure ensures dramatic tension and release – which you need in order to create a memorable presentation.

    What is your story thread?

    Whatever the topic of your presentation is, it’s useful to consider using a consistent story thread or motif. We have all internalized many archetypal motifs through stories that have been told and retold through the generations. Here are just a few:

    Climbing a mountain: how someone overcomes all difficulties to reach the summit.

    Finding the missing piece of a puzzle: how a search is finally rewarded with a new insight into how pieces fit together.

    Voyage into the unknown: how an adventurer set out into the unknown and finds a place hitherto unknown.

    The treasure hunt: how someone follows hidden clues and finally uncovers a treasure.

    The reluctant hero: how an ordinary person overcomes all odds and ends up a hero.

    Finding the source: how someone walked back in order to find the source or origin.

    The blockbuster story: you can use a story thread from popular culture. An example would be Star Wars.

    There are many more such story threads. If you use a story thread, your presentation will be strengthened with an invisible backbone. A consistent motif will make it easy to find appropriate metaphors and images to support your topic.

    The building blocks of a great presentation

    In keeping with the underlying three-act structure, you need three main building blocks, the opening, the development, and the closing.

    The opening

    Your first task is get your audience’s attention and to create a connection. A great way to do this is to relate a personal story, the ‘why’ of your presentation. Why are you passionate about this topic? How does this topic relate to your life? If you lead in with a personal story, it’s much easier for people to relate to your topic. And your personal story establishes authority. In order to grab your audience’s attention, see if you can start in a way that’s unexpected.

    Let’s say you are going to present a talk on how to become a runner, in order to go from flab to fit.

    Your opening could be your story about how you were overweight, and then managed to become slim and fit by taking up running. Once you’ve established your motivation and authority, it’s time to start with Act 1, that is, you need to speak about people’s pain, frustration and barriers in respect of your topic. The pain points here could be feeling unattractive, unhealthy, or unfit. The challenge could be the beliefs that ‘I could never learn to run’, or ‘I get puffed after only a few meters – how could I ever get fit?’

    The desired outcome (that’s going to be Act 3 of your presentation) is to become a runner in only 5 weeks ‘by using the following 5 step body-control program’.  In this scenario you would need to spend a moment explaining why the ‘5 step body-control program’ is effective. Then it’s time for the development phase.

     

    The development

     

    This is the phase where you lay out exactly how to overcome the pain points in order to reach the desired outcome. The brain learns best if you offer bite-sized bits of information. This is why numbered steps or bullet-points work so well. This is going to be the ‘meat in the sandwich’, so to speak. The development part of your presentation should be the longest part with detailed information. Once you have laid out how to achieve the desired outcome, it’s time for the closing.

    The closure

     

    In the closure it’s time to talk about how it feels when you achieve the benefits. Maybe you can give examples of others who also achieved success in order to inspire and motivate. It’s a good idea to repeat briefly the main steps of your development phase. In other words, you need to remind them briefly of the main content of your presentation.

    Then comes the call to action.  You need to outline the next step for your listeners. What should they do now in order to move closer to the desired outcome? Are there special resources they can access? Is there an action they can do today that will start them on a new path?

     

    To PowerPoint or not?

    Most presenters these days use PowerPoint slides. That can be very effective. Because you can use images and motion in order to hammer home your points. I think in general, PowerPoint presentations are great if you want to convey information. However, if your presentation revolves is inspirational and revolves around your personal story, then just words may well work better because such a presentation is more intimate.

    Whether or not you use PowerPoint, it’s important for your presentation to sound like your talking, and not reading aloud.

    Here are two books that I find especially helpful in creating PowerPoint presentations:

    Cliff Atkinson: Beyond Bullet Points. This book explains in detail how to put together a presentation that is based on the 3-act structure. For Mac users, iWork: Keynote ’09 by Richard Harrington is a great resource that shows how to create stunning presentations that inform, motivate, and inspire.

     

    Conversational tone

    The best presentation are conversational. Even if you’ve worked them out to the letter, they still need to sound spontaneous. The way to write conversationally is to read aloud your draft to others. Whenever you notice that a sentence sounds contrived, mark it for further work. What often works is to shorten sentences, use simple language and use contractions, such as ‘you’ll’ instead of ‘you will’. These rehearsals are a key part of building confidence. Read more on how to conduct rehearsals for maximum effect here.

    Timing

    Each presentation usually has a timeframe that you need to adhere to – especially if you invite questions at the end. Make sure you time your rehearsals. Then cut your text so that you spend only 80% of the allotted time, in order to have some time up your sleeve.

    Conclusion

    As you can see from the notes above, the key strategy for creating a riveting presentation is to set up a dramatic tension, using the 3-act structure that sets up a tension between the paint points that the audience experiences and the desired outcomes that your presentation offers.

    Most importantly, if you use archetypal story threads that bind the parts of the presentation together, you  can create a memorable presentation.

    What are your tips for creating a presentation? Please share them in the comments.

     

    About the author

      Mary Jaksch

      Mary Jaksch is best known for her exceptional training for writers at WritetoDone.com. Grab her latest all new course Blogwriter's Bootcamp 2.0 or a copy of her free report, How to Create an Irresistible Lead Magnet in Less Than 5 Hours. In her “spare” time, Mary’s also the brains behind AlistBlogging.net. and GoodlifeZEN.com, a Zen Master, a mother, and a 5th Degree Black Belt.

    • ahmed says:

      thanks mary for teaching me how to speak in public speaking before your this lesson. even i hated to speak more then three people but right now i feel very confident person and i seem to be spokesman

    • Ajeva says:

      Thanks Mary for giving me the confidence on my upcoming presentation. My biggest fear is how to connect with my audience in the first 5 minutes of my presentation. I wish one day I can simply get rid of all those cards I have to read and talk to my audience as if I’m having a coffee break with them. I love the tips you wrote here!

    • Hi Mary,

      Great post! Like most people I hate public speaking. Recently I had to give a speech at a wedding. What I found helpful was to to write it, rehearse it and then leave it alone the week before. When something is suppose to come from the heart it shouldn’t sound too rehearsed.

      Looking forward to more posts,
      Leah

    • Your timing is perfect. I’m preparing to do a full day of training and I’m struggling with my powerpoint presentation. I’ve also never spoke for a full day to any audience. I’m going to begin with the story of the Brooklyn Bridge which most people don’t know. It was build by a father and son. There was a terrible onsite accident where the father dies and the son was paralyzed and could only move one finger. He couldn’t walk or talk. He came up with a code and communicated with thaHe was moved in an apartment so he could overlook the work being done and with one finger on his wife’s arm he tapped out how the crew should finish the bridge. Is that amazing or what? The first point is the way he communicated and the second is…would you be willing to do what it takes to make your dream come true. I’m out today to purchase the book. Wish me luck;)

    • Sachin says:

      Thank God I found this while surfing..most useful as I have to give presentation on monday…. thanks a lot

    • Hi Mary – from a fellow New Zealander

      Focusing on the new knowledge, or new skill, you want your audience to have is great advice. An additional tip is to craft that into a “key message”
      for your presentation. This is a sentence which encapsulates the new knowledge or skill you want your audience to have. The key message gives your presentation a sharp focus and is easy for your audience to remember. Here’s a link to a post I wrote about crafting a key message:

      http://www.speakingaboutpresenting.com/content/memorable-key-message-10-minutes/

      Olivia

    • I especially appreciate your section on story threads. I plan to refer to your blog in a writing class I’ll be teaching on Monday. Thanks a bunch!

    • This covers the elements of a fantastic presentation very well. Having seen many, many presentations, including some that did knock my socks off–my thoughts are:

      ***Timing is super important. It’s so unprofessional and thoughtless and yet so common for speakers go over their alloted time and use up some of the time for another speaker or for a break.

      ***Good stories are what grabs and holds the audience. And archetypal motifs are powerful. Many people working in a technical area could greatly improve their presentations by use of stories.

      *** PowerPoint is tricky. It can add to a speech, but it’s often done poorly. Another problem is that a speaker may have to fumble with the equipment which makes him even more nervous than he already is. One alternative is for the speaker to prepare a hand-out showing graphical information.

    • Katie says:

      This is great advice for any kind of writing. It mirrors good screenwriting techniques, but I guess that’s the point. You are creating a moving picture for your audience. In screenwriting the first act always has a turning point when everything changes and that perhaps is when you nail the benefit and draw in your audience. Love the archetypal motifs. It seems everything is a variation on one of them in some way, shape or form. Terrific insights, Mary.

      • Thanks, Katie. I learned a lot about writing by studying how to create a storyboard for videos 🙂


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